* This work is a combination and culmination of various modalities, contemplative practices, healing arts and spiritual lineages.
* The facilitator and participant act as a conduits for this work to come through, and is co-created with each participant informing each session uniquely.
* While all aspects of experience are welcome, this work privileges Presence and Awareness and these are a prerequisite for any in depth Inquiry. Transformation comes with presence, love, openness, curiosity—from accepting what is… even if what we have to accept is not wanting to accept, anger, fear, hatred, resistance.
* Sessions can be supportive of clarifying and reducing obstacles to Beingness.
* Presence is an Aspect of Beingness, and is present in everyone, and can be experienced/brought to Awareness/Known to everyone who is at a minimal developmental state and not significantly cognitively impaired.
* Beingness is a birthright, and it comes with the ability to be with whatever is arising. Our systems often need to learn how to do this in a way that is not overwhelming.This is where having a guide can be helpful and allow a slow gentle process of resting in Presence as Beingness allowing whatever is arising, from a place of openness, curiosity, and compassion.
* Words that describe the various aspects of Presence: Vast, Grounded, Open, Aware, Spacious, Compassionate, Light, Empty, Fullness, Stillness, Silence, Timeless.
* Presence arises naturally and effortless in a number of different ways, one way is in the absence of all striving and goal-oriented efforts.
* Underlying perspective is that we are inherently Whole already, and that much of the “work,” is an unlearning and a Remembering.
* The experience of contraction, conditioning, feelings of separation and struggle do not negate Presence. We can rest as Presence and relate to these conditions.
* This work is Non-Linear and has an intelligence of its own.
* There is a privileging what is here, now and the integrity of that unfolding.
* These sessions are often somatic based and include an element Embodyment: living as an Awake, Grounded, Open Presence here on this Earth in our bodies.
* There is a reason that we have left our bodes and moved to our heads and distractions like cell phones and internet. Sometimes it is crucial to slow down and find gentle ways of reconnecting to the body that set the ground for deeper embodiment work. Working with Somatic Resources and the nervous system can greatly support this process.
* When our experience becomes more grounded in the body. Presence can be anchored in the felt experience which allows for greater integration and ability to live from Presence rather than trying to escape and transcend or bypass our experience to get somewhere else.
* While bodies are not always the most accurate, up to date source of information, this work privileges the felt sense, energetic and embodied experience. Honoring what feels True (experienced in the body or energy field) as true. Body may hold old imprints like “I have to get out of here RIGHT NOW!” That can get activated during inner work, meditation and inquiry. While this may not be True in this moment, that there is an immediate threat, this impulse and information is valuable, crucial and must be honored and worked with not bypassed or seen as resistance or a hindrance.
* Within our Vast Awareness is a more focused Attention.We can use this Attention to help regulate our experience.
* Our thoughts/emotions/resistances/anxieties and ways of distracting ourselves, are seen as strategies to help our systems avoid/regulate/protect against feelings/experiences that maybe scary (including one aspect of Presence that include a Vast, Unknown Emptiness).They are not to be judged as hindrances, working with them, and helping them relax and assisting in accessing more efficient and effective Resources is the work.
* One way of looking at our inner landscape is through the lens of parts.
* Some of the common parts are the Inner Child, the Inner Critic, a Task Master, The Spiritual Seeker, The Inner Coach, the One who craves sugar… etc.
* We often experience this when we say “Part of me wants to go to the gym and part of me doesn’t.” or “I know that this is irrational, but I feel anxious whenever I go across a bridge.” There is a part that is having one experience and another having a different one. As well as a Presence based Self which is holding, and observing the whole experience.
* Parts of us that are intellectual and philosophical will be asked to step aside.While these can be very helpful and enjoyable aspects in the daily life, they are generally a hindrance in inner work.They can also be the focus of inquiry into their role and the persistence of their strategy as a means of protection/defense against our inner experience.
* It is best to speak for the various aspects of inner experience, naming them as a “part of us” rather than being consumed or fused with them and speaking/identifying as them.
* When working with parts, allow the parts to speak through us, float questions and suspend the “thinker/ figure it out,” and allow the answer to float up/emerge.It is okay to no know/ be uncertain.
* The inner world of Presence is vast enough to hold the entirety of human experience.If we bring Awareness to our inner landscape we will have to reckon with our own slice of the shadow of humanity.
* Welcoming all aspects of inner experience.While it may not be okay to act out or upon all thoughts, emotions, impulses or fantasies, they are welcome as part of the human landscape in the sessions.
PRESENCE BASED COACHING
Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Facilitated Inquiry